All Terms

Alphabetical collection of all terms

This glossary is a continuously updating record of terms that have been and are being used in the aromantic community by at least one person. As a record, this glossary is meant to document the various concepts that are thought up when the language is not sufficient to describe people’s experiences and doesn’t encourage or discourage the use of any term.

Please keep in mind these are shortened definitions and identities can be nuanced.

Jump to: A, B, C, D, E, F, G, I, K, L, M, N, O, P, Q, R, S, T, U, V, W, Z

 

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A spectrum (a-spec)

  1. An umbrella term for orientations based on conditional and no romantic and/or sexual attraction, that is aromantic and asexual spectra, abbreviated to a-spec.

  2. A-spec is also used as a specific identity describing someone who doesn’t differentiate their experiences of conditional or no attraction into types.

Coined by: Whes and Strategicgoat and Warriorsdebt

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Abroromantic

Describes a person who experiences a fluid or rapidly changing romantic attraction to people of different gender expressions.

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Acoromantic

Describes a person whose negative experiences with romance have alienated them from their alloromanticism.

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Afecturomantic / Affecturomantic / Adfectual / Adfomantic

Describes a person whose romantic attraction is affected by their neurodivergency.


Aegoromantic

Describes a person who enjoys the idea of romance, but does not wish to be a participant in romantic activities. A romantic parallel to aegosexual/autochorissexual, an idea first theorized by Anthony Bogaert.

Coined by: Eridanamporadefensesquad on Tumblr

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Aesthetic Attraction

An interest or strong appreciation for a particular person’s appearance or beauty.


Akoi(ne)romantic

  1. Describes a person who can feel romantic attraction towards others and enjoys romantic relationships in theory, but does not need that affection to be reciprocated or to be in a relationship with the one the feelings are directed towards.

  2. Describes a person who may stop feeling romantic attraction once in a relationship or stop enjoying it.

Coined by: Cisphobeofficial

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Akoiflux

  1. Describes a person who experiences romantic attraction and only sometimes desires for it to be reciprocated.

  2. Describes a person who experiences romantic attraction and has that attraction fade once in a relationship, but may come and go again throughout.

Coined by: Wavership

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Aliquaromantic

Describes a person who experiences romantic attraction only under certain circumstances.

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Allo aro (allo/aro, aro/allo)

An abbreviation of allosexual aromantic, a term people who are allosexual and aromantic use to describe themselves.


Alloromantic

Describes a person who experiences romantic attraction or is not on the aromantic spectrum.

Popularized by: Queenie


Allosexual

Describes a person who experiences sexual attraction or is not on the asexual spectrum.

Coined by: Hezekiah


Alterous attraction

An interest or desire for emotional closeness without necessarily being platonic and/or romantic. Alterous is often used in the place of -romantic or -sexual suffixes (e.g., bialterous instead of biromantic).

  1. A significant attraction that is related to other attractions (e.g., romantic).

  2. A significant attraction that is unrelated to any other attractions.

Coined by: Schizotypal-scully

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Amatonormativity

The widespread assumption that everyone is better off in an exclusive, romantic, long-term coupled relationship, and that everyone is seeking such a relationship.

Coined by: Philosopher and professor Elizabeth Brake


Amicusromantic

Describes a person who experiences romantic attraction only to people they are platonically attracted to or are friends with.

Coined by: Pastelmemer (a.k.a. Pastelroswell) on Tumblr

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Amorous

Describes an aromantic person who wishes to form a significant partnership with others. The opposite of nonamorous. Not everyone finds this category of description relevant.


Angled aroace

Describes a person on the aromantic and asexual spectra, who experiences a form of attraction other than romantic or sexual, but is significant enough to warrant a place alongside their aroace orientation. This label is for use by arospec asexual people, aromantic acespec people, and arospec acespec people.

Coined by: Black-aros

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Antiromantic

Describes a person who would prefer not to develop romantic feelings for people, but does anyway.


Apathromantic

Describes a person who may or may not experience romantic attraction, but is indifferent to receiving it or acting on it.


Aplatonic

  1. Describes a person who experiences little to no platonic attraction. This means they rarely or never experience squishes, which are strong desires to form a friendship with a particular person.

  2. Describes neurodivergent aroaces who struggle to form relationships of any kind with people.

Coined by: Mr. Shuttershy

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Aplatonic spectrum (aplspec)

  1. An umbrella term for people who experience little to no platonic attraction, abbreviated to aplspec.

  2. Aplspec is also used as a specific identity describing someone who experiences conditional or otherwise nonnormative platonic attraction, but doesn’t label it further. Platonic is often used in the place of -romantic or -sexual suffixes (e.g., demiplatonic instead of demiromantic).

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Aporomantic

See Akoi(ne)romantic


Apothiromantic

Describes a person who does not experience any romantic attraction whatsoever, in any shape or form, and is romance repulsed.

Coined by:  Autisutehk on Tumblr

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Appromour

Describes a relationship or partner that is not romantic. It may not quite fit the definition of a queerplatonic relationship or queerplatonic partner either. Appromour is a way to describe a relationship that may seem like a romantic relationship to oneself or outside observers but is decidedly still not romantic.

 Coined by: Pixelprattlexp


Apresromantic

Describes a person who only experiences romantic attraction after another form of attraction is felt. The original attraction may or may not fade/be replaced by the new attraction.

Coined by:  Pastelmemer (a.k.a. Pastelroswell) on Tumblr

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Archaro

Describes a person who feels that their aromantic identity is more important than other identities or is their “primary” or most important identity. Can be thought of to be an experience under the non-SAM/unit aro umbrella.

Coined by: Arokeladry

As a subset of non-SAM/unit aro proposed by: Arokeladry


Aroace (aro/ace)

An abbreviation of aromantic asexual, a term by which people who are aromantic and asexual describe themselves.

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Aroflux

  1. Describes a person whose romantic orientation fluctuates but always stays on the aromantic spectrum.

  2. Describes a person whose romantic orientation fluctuates between aromantic and alloromantic.

Coined by: Ngc2068

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Arogender

Describes a gender which is significantly connected to one’s aromanticism. It can be any gender identity influenced by having an aromantic spectrum identity. It can be used as a standalone gender label or in conjunction with others; for example, one could be an arogender boy.

  Coined by: Arokaladin

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Arohaze

Describes an aromantic person whose identity on the allosexual-asexual spectrum and/or on other orientation spectra is neutral, in-between, multiple, or unclear.

Coined by: Liquidlikecats

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Aromantic (aro)

  1. Commonly describes someone who experiences little to no romantic attraction, abbreviated to aro.

    It also describes someone whose experience of romance is disconnected from normative societal expectations, due to feeling repulsed by romance, or being uninterested in romantic relationships.

  2. Commonly used as a specific identity term by people who experience no romantic attraction.

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See also: FAQ


Aromantic spectrum (arospec, aro)

  1. An umbrella term for all aromantic orientations, which emphasizes the diversity from no romantic attraction to nonnormative romantic attraction or experience with romance, abbreviated to arospec.

  2. Arospec is also used as a specific identity term describing someone who experiences conditional, unreliable or otherwise nonnormative romantic attraction, but doesn’t label it further.


Aromanticism

Noun form of aromantic.


Aromate

Describes a platonic friend who fulfills the role of a soulmate in a nonromantic way.

Coined by: Caeghost


Aromisia

The dislike of or prejudice against aromantic people. Aromisia is an alternative term to arophobia, which is sometimes misused to be synonymous with a diagnosable phobia or fear.


Aromush

See Arohaze

Coined by: Liquidlikecats

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Arophobia


Arospike

Describes a person whose romantic orientation fluctuates very rapidly, skyrocketing into intense attraction, then plummeting down to feeling no attraction again.

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Arovague

Describes a person whose status as an aromantic is unclear or affected by mood.

Coined by: Gcdzilla

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Arovoid

See Arohaze

Coined by: Aroaceitup

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Asexual (ace)

Commonly describes someone who experiences little to no sexual attraction, abbreviated to ace.

It also describes people whose experiences with sex are disconnected from normative societal expectations, due to feeling repulsed by or uninterested in sex.

Another common umbrella term for asexuals is asexual spectrum (acespec), analogous to aromantic spectrum but for sexual attraction.


Aspectusromantic

Describes a person who can appear to have an attraction, but in reality they do not feel that attraction at all. They tend to act in ways that most people would assume alloromantic people do.

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Autochorisromantic

See Aegoromantic

 

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Bellusromantic

Describes a person who has interest in conventionally romantic actions, yet does not desire a romantic relationship.

Coined by: Shygu on Tumblr

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Borearomantic

Describes a person who has a set romantic orientation, with an exception, usually revolving around a single person.

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Burstromantic

Describes a person whose romantic attraction comes and goes, the label doesn’t specify if there is a reason for the changes.

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Caed(o)romantic

Describes a person who used to experience romantic attraction, but no longer does due to past trauma.

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Caligoromantic

Describes a person whose feelings of attraction are very weak or vague, almost nonexistent, like a vapor, fog, or mist.

Coined by: Terribledactyl on Tumblr

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Cassromantic

Describes a person who feels utterly indifferent to romantic attraction or feels that it isn’t important.

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Ceaseromantic

Describes a person who is usually alloromantic, but occasionally has a complete loss of attraction for a period of time.

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Chosen family

A group of individuals who, based on emotional closeness, deliberately choose one another to play significant roles in each other’s lives and consider each other family even though they are not biologically or legally related.


Crush

An intense feeling of romantic attraction to a person.


Cruxromantic

Describes a person who only experiences romantic attraction within one’s depended(s). This term can be used to describe romantic attraction felt solely within the context of Dependent Personality Disorder.

Coined by: Anti-god on Tumblr

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Cupioromantic

Describes a person who does not experience romantic attraction, but still desires a romantic relationship.

Coined by: Aro-ace-wonderwoman (a.k.a. Louaxel)

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Demiromantic

Describes a person who only experiences romantic attraction after developing an emotional connection.

Demi coined by: Sonofzeal

Demiromantic coined by: HD Ready

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Dependromantic

See Cruxromantic


Desinoromantic

Describes a person who does not experience full-on romantic attraction, but experiences “liking” someone instead of “loving” them romantically, at which point the attraction ends.

Coined by: Pastelmemer (a.k.a. Pastelroswell) on Tumblr

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Dreadromantic

Describes a person whose romantic orientation fluctuates from feeling no attraction to feeling attraction. When attraction is felt, it is accompanied by a strong feeling of dread or anxiety.

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Duoromantic

Describes a person who has two or more well-defined orientations that they switch between (e.g., cupioromantic and frayromantic).

Duo coined by: Sto

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Duraromantic

Describes a person who rarely experiences romantic attraction, but when it they do, it lasts for a long time.

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Exige(n)romantic

See Cruxromantic


Exteramo attraction

A significant interest or desire for emotional closeness with a particular person, without being related to platonic and/or romantic attraction.

Coined by: Aromanticrey

 

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Fluitic attraction

An interest or desire to have a wavership with a particular person.

Coined by: Wavership

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Frayromantic

Describes a person who experiences romantic attraction towards strangers and people they are less familiar with, which fades away when they get to know them more.

Coined by: Edensmachine on Tumblr

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Greyromantic (grey aromantic)

  1. Describes a person who feels romantic attraction very rarely, weakly, unreliably or gains/loses attraction in unusual or unknown circumstances.

  2. Can also be used as an umbrella term for orientations on the aromantic spectrum except for aromantics who don’t experience romantic attraction at all.

Grey coined by: KPsaz

Greyromantic coined by: Shortass Lady

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Iamvanoromantic

Describes a person who feels little to no desire to be the giver of romantic gestures but expresses interest/desire in receiving them from someone else. An iamvanoromantic person can be aromantic or alloromantic.

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Idemromantic

Describes a person who does not internally experience romantic and platonic attraction differently. They distinguish between romantic and platonic based on other factors, such as age, personality compatibility, and ease of living together.

Coined by: Aspiring-to-wisdom

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Ignotaromantic

See Frayromantic

Coined by: Arcresources


Implaromantic

Describes a person who is never satisfied with their orientation due to constant self-doubt, causing them to search and seek out something that fits as perfect as possible.

Coined by: Ash-doggie

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Inactoromantic

Describes a person who experiences romantic attraction and wants a romantic relationship but doesn’t like romantic actions.

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Inexromantic

See Implaromantic

Coined by: Pride-color-schemes


Initiaromantic

See Inactoromantic

 

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Kalosromantic

See Cupioromantic

Coined by: Acelyssie

 

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Limnoromantic

Describes a person who experiences attraction only when engaging with depictions of attraction (e.g., drawings, writing), not when engaging with the acts themselves in real life.

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Lithflux

See Akoiflux


Lithromantic

See Akoi(ne)romantic

Coined by: Ian


Lush

The sensual equivalent of a crush. A lush is an intense feeling of sensual attraction to a person.

 

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Malaromantic

Describes a person who only experiences romantic attraction during maladaptive daydreams.

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Mesh

The alterous equivalent of a crush. A mesh is an intense feeling of alterous attraction to a person.


Metaromantic

Describes a person who only experiences attraction that is unable to be defined by strict terms of platonic or romantic.

Coined by: Pastelmemer (a.k.a. Pastelroswell) on Tumblr

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Mixed orientation identity / Varioriented

Any combination of a sexual orientation and romantic orientation that do not “match up,” or share the same gender preference. Any person who is not heteroromantic heterosexual, homoromantic homosexual, aromantic asexual, biromantic bisexual, or panromantic pansexual, etc., has a mixed orientation identity. Also called cross-orientation sexuality.


Monogamy repulsion

A measurement of how much a person feels uncomfortable with components of monogamy (sexual, emotional, social, and activity) being displayed or directed at them.

Coined by: Mark

 

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Nebularomantic

Describes a person who has difficulty or inability to tell romantic attraction apart from platonic due to their neurodivergency.

Coined by: Nonpuellamagi

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Neu(tro) aro / Neutral aro

See Arohaze

Coined by: A-romantic--aromantic

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Neuroromantic

Describes a person whose romantic orientation is affected by their neurodivergency in some way. Neuroromantic is often used as an umbrella term for neurodivergence-influenced identities.

Coined by: Pastelmemer (a.k.a. Pastelroswell) on Tumblr

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Non-SAM aro

Describes an aromantic person who does not use the Split Attraction Model (SAM) to characterize their orientation. This term is disliked by many who fit the description as it defines them by what they are not, implies split attraction is the norm for aromantics, and that the counterpart “SAM aro” is rarely used.

A recently proposed alternative to this term is Unit aro.


Nonamorous

Describes a person who does not wish to form a significant partnership with others.

Coined by: Anagnori

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Nonpartnering

See Nonamorous

Coined by: Omitef#7790 on Arocalypse Discord


Noviromantic

Describes a person who experiences a complicated romantic attraction (or lack thereof) such that they do not feel it can be described in a single term.

Coined by: Romeoisadick on Tumblr

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Omniaromantic

Describes a person who feels no romantic attraction whatsoever. In no way, shape, or form do they fall in love or feel any attraction to anyone.

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Oriented aroace

Describes an aromantic and asexual person who experiences a form of attraction that is neither romantic nor sexual, but is significant enough to warrant a place alongside their aroace orientation. This label was specifically created for aroaces who never experience romantic or sexual attraction.

  Coined by: Bioaroace

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Panaromantic

See Omniaromantic


Paramour

Describes a friend that one has a significant sexual relationship with.

Coined by: Alexei


Partnering

See Amorous


Peach fuzz

When Queerplatonic Partners pretend to be in a romantic relationship to stave off questions from friends and family asking why they’re not dating anyone.

Coined by: Sleepyspoonie


Perioriented

Any combination of a sexual orientation and romantic orientation that “match up,” or share the same gender preference.


Placioromantic

Describes a person who feels little to no desire to be the receiver of romantic gestures but expresses interest/desire in performing them on someone else. A placioromantic person can be aromantic or alloromantic.

Coined by: Athomewithmargaery on Tumblr

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Plat(oni)romantic

Describes a person who feels no distinction between platonic and romantic attraction.

Coined by: Novusnova on Tumblr

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Platonic attraction

An interest or desire for friendship or other close relationship with a particular person. Most often, this relationship is non-romantic and non-sexual, but this can vary depending on the person.


Plush

The queerplatonic equivalent of a crush. A plush is a desire to enter into a queerplatonic relationship with a particular person.


Polarromantic

Describes a person who switches between being either extremely attracted and not at all attracted to someone.

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Polyaffectionate

Describes a person who practices or desires non-romantic and/or non-sexual affectionate relationships where individuals have more than one partner, with the knowledge and consent of all partners. A type of polyamory that is explicitly non-romantic and/or non-sexual. 

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Polyamory

The practice of, or desire for, intimate relationships where individuals may have more than one partner, with the knowledge and consent of all partners. Individuals who practice polyamory are called polyamorous.

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Post rubor

Describes a person who quickly gets crushes on others, but they don’t develop into more stable attachment after the initial excitement of the crush vanishes.

Coined by: Wintertendrils

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Preromantic

Describes a person who feels that they have not experienced attraction enough to know their orientation yet.

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Primaro

See Archaro

Coined by: Reesexaviergonzales


Propeestromantic

Describes a person whose identity feels like a mix of many (any more than two) aromantic spectrum identities that all are a part of one identity.

Coined by: Alex (Knifegoth on Tumblr)

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Protoromantic

See Frayromantic

 

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Quasiromantic

Describes a person who may see their attraction as non-traditional in some way.

Coined by: Jadekarkat

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Queerplatonic (quasiplatonic) relationship (QPR)

A committed non-romantic relationship that goes beyond what is the subjective cultural norm for a friendship. Levels of intimacy and/or behaviors between the partners involved often don’t fit the conventional standards set by society. Some QPRs can include sex and elements that are generally considered romantic. In practice every queerplatonic relationship is different. Abbreviated to QPR, and queerplatonic (quasiplatonic) partner to QPP. Another common word for QPP used to be zucchini.

Coined by: Meloukhia and Kaz

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Quoiromantic

  1. Describes a person who doesn’t understand romance, romantic attraction, or romantic orientation and feels as if those categories are nonsensical, inapplicable, or inaccessible so they disidentify with those labels.
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  2. Describes a person who experiences confusion or frustration when trying to differentiate between and apply platonic and romantic attraction to their personal experiences, and therefore is not sure if they experience it.

Coined by: Cor (Epochryphal)

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Recipromantic

Describes a person who feels romantic attraction only if the other person feels romantic attraction toward them first.

Coined by: Brooke

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Relationship anarchy

The belief that no kinds of intimate relationships are superior to others, despite some being more highly valued in society. Opposed to amatonormativity and not specific to aromantics.

Coined by: Andie Nordgren


Requi(es)romantic

Describes a person who feels little to no romantic attraction due to mental or emotional exhaustion. The exhaustion may or may not have been caused by bad experiences of romance in that person's past.

Coined by: Gay4dragons on Tumblr

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Requiromantic

See Cruxromantic


Romance repulsed / averse / indifferent / favorable

An axis describing a person’s level of comfort with actions that are perceived as romantic directed at them or displays of them (in person or in media). The level of comfort may be dynamic and conditional.

Romance repulsed/averse – describes a person who is mildly to severely uncomfortable with romance directed at them or displays of romantic affections.

Romance indifferent – describes a person who is neither uncomfortable with nor particularly enthusiastic about romance directed at them or displays of romantic affections.

Romance favorable – describes a person who is comfortable with and may enjoy romance or displays of romantic affections.


Romantic attraction

An interest or desire for romantic contact or interaction with a particular person. This type of attraction often comes with strong feelings, usually infatuation and the wish to form a romantic relationship with that person.


Romantic orientation

A label describing the usual patterns of a person’s romantic attraction or the lack of it.


Romo aro

Describes a person who is on the aromantic spectrum and experiences romantic attraction in some way or who desires/is in a romantic relationship. Stands for “romantic aromantic.”

 

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Schromantic

Describes a person who is aromantic and alloromantic at the same time, or some mix of the two.

Coined on AVEN


Semi-SAM

A type of application of the Split Attraction Model (SAM). The semi-SAM is fluctuation in how one can classify their identity. For example, sometimes identifying under a SAM model feels appropriate, while at other times it does not. It can also be used if one feels a particular identity takes priority, but does not wish to disregard any other identities.

Coined by: Black-aros


Sensual attraction

An interest or desire to touch or be physically close to someone, in a non-sexual way such as hugging or cuddling.

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Sexual attraction

An interest or desire for sexual contact or interaction with a particular person.


Singlism

The stigmatization of or discrimination against people who are single.

Coined by: Bella DePaulo


Singuluromantic

Describes a person who only experiences one type of attraction towards people (i.e. if they experience sexual attraction towards a person, they won’t feel romantic/alterous/platonic attraction towards them).


Smush

The sexual equivalent of a crush. A smush is an intense feeling of sexual attraction to a person.


Soft romo

An adjective to describe something that is low-level romantic. A soft romo relationship is defined by the coiner as somewhere in between a queerplatonic and a romantic relationship.

Coined by: Viola


Solaro

Describes a person who feels that their identity is uniquely aromantic, just aromantic, or only, solely aromantic. Can be thought of to be an experience under the non-SAM/unit aro umbrella.

Coined by: Arokeladry

As a subset of non-SAM/unit aro proposed by: Arokeladry


Split Attraction Model (SAM)

Some aromantics use the SAM to make a distinction between experiences of attraction depending on certain characteristics, conceptualizing them as different types of attraction. A person who uses the SAM to describe themselves may experience different types of attraction as distinctive and decide to label the attractions separately. It’s not a model that works to describe everyone’s experiences, and there are some disagreements about its history.


Squash

See Plush


Squish

  1. The platonic equivalent of a crush. A squish is an intense feeling of platonic attraction, commonly mistaken with ‘just wanting to be friends with someone.’

  2. The equivalent of a crush for other types of attraction. Sometimes used as a catch-all term for other types of non-romantic non-sexual attractions.

Coined by: Raisin (A-gent Raisin)


Swish

The aesthetic equivalent of a crush. A swish is an intense feeling of aesthetic attraction to a person.

 

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Tertiary attraction

An umbrella term that includes types of attraction that are not strictly categorizable into romantic attraction or sexual attraction.


Thymromantic

Describes a person who feels romantic attraction which varies depending on emotional state.

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Touch averse

Describes a person who is mildly to severely uncomfortable with physical touch. The level of discomfort may be dynamic and conditional.

 

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Unicum aro

See Solaro

Coined by Magni


Unit aro

See non-SAM aro.

Describes an aromantic person who identifies only or primarily as aromantic, centering their aromantic identity as their preferred unit.

Coined by: Neir

 

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Voidpunk

An aesthetic practice of rejecting one’s own human identity in response to systemic dehumanization. Voidpunk is a way of coping with dehumanization by reclaiming it. Not specific to aromantic people.

Coined by: Arotaro and Milkchocolatebowl

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Wavership

Describes a relationship that fluctuates or is fluid between different kinds of relationships.

Coined by: Wavership


WTFromantic

See Quoiromantic

Coined by: Sciatrix

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Zedromantic

Describes a person who experiences romantic attraction or is not on the aromantic spectrum. An alternate term to alloromantic.

Coined by: Arco-pluris