Uncommon and Newly Emerging Terms

Terms that are new or not currently popular

This glossary is a continuously updating record of terms that have been and are being used in the aromantic community by at least one person. As a record, this glossary is meant to document the various concepts that are thought up when the language is not sufficient to describe people’s experiences and doesn’t encourage or discourage the use of any term.

Please keep in mind these are shortened definitions and identities can be nuanced.

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Amorous / partnering

Describes an aromantic person who wishes to form a significant partnership with others. The opposite of nonamorous (not everyone finds this category of description relevant).


Appromour

Describes a relationship or partner that is not romantic. It may not quite fit the definition of a queerplatonic relationship or queerplatonic partner either. Appromour is a way to describe a relationship that may seem like a romantic relationship to oneself or outside observers but is decidedly still not romantic.

Coined by: Pixelprattlexp


Arogender

Describes a gender which is significantly connected to one’s aromanticism. It can be any gender identity influenced by having an aromantic spectrum identity. It can be used as a standalone gender label or in conjunction with others; for example, one could be an arogender boy.

Coined by: Arokaladin

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Aromate

Describes a platonic friend who fulfills the role of a soulmate in a nonromantic way.

Coined by: Caeghost


Fluitic attraction

An interest or desire to have a wavership with a particular person.

Coined by: Wavership

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Mixed orientation identity / Varioriented

Any combination of a sexual orientation and romantic orientation that do not “match up,” or share the same gender preference. Any person who is not heteroromantic heterosexual, homoromantic homosexual, aromantic asexual, biromantic bisexual, or panromantic pansexual, etc., has a mixed orientation identity. Also called cross-orientation sexuality.


Monogamy repulsion

A measurement of how much a person feels uncomfortable with components of monogamy (sexual, emotional, social, and activity) being displayed or directed at them.

Coined by: Mark


Non-SAM aro

Describes an aromantic person who does not use the Split Attraction Model (SAM) to characterize their orientation. This term is disliked by many who fit the description as it defines them by what they are not, implies split attraction is the norm for aromantics, and the counterpart “SAM aro” is rarely used.

A recently proposed alternative to this term is Unit aro - describes an aromantic person who identifies only or primarily as aromantic, centering their aromantic identity as their preferred unit.

Unit aro coined by: Neir


Paramour

Describes a friend that one has a significant sexual relationship with.

Coined by: Alexei


Peach fuzz

When Queerplatonic Partners pretend to be in a romantic relationship to stave off questions from friends and family asking why they’re not dating anyone.

Coined by: Sleepyspoonie


Perioriented

Any combination of a sexual orientation and romantic orientation that “match up,” or share the same gender preference.


Post rubor

Describes a person who quickly gets crushes on others, but they don’t develop into more stable attachment after the initial excitement of the crush vanishes.

Coined by: Wintertendrils

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Primaro / Archaro

Describes a person who feels that their aromantic identity is more important than other identities or is their “primary” or most important identity. Can be thought of to be an experience under the non-SAM/unit aro umbrella.

Primaro coined by: Reesexaviergonzales

        Primaro as a subset of non-SAM/unit aro proposed by: Arokeladry

Archaro coined by: Arokeladry


Romo aro

Describes a person who is on the aromantic spectrum and experiences romantic attraction in some way or who desires/is in a romantic relationship. Stands for “romantic aromantic.”


Semi-SAM

A type of application of the Split Attraction Model (SAM). The semi-SAM is fluctuation in how one can classify their identity. For example, sometimes identifying under a SAM model feels appropriate, while at other times it does not. It can also be used if one feels a particular identity takes priority, but does not wish to disregard any other identities.

Coined by: Black-aros


Voidpunk

An aesthetic practice of rejecting one’s own human identity in response to systemic dehumanization. Voidpunk is a way of coping with dehumanization by reclaiming it. Not specific to aromantic people.

Coined by: Arotaro and Milkchocolatebowl

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Unicum aro / Solaro

Describes a person who feels that their identity is uniquely aromantic, just aromantic, or only, solely aromantic. Can be thought of to be an experience under the non-SAM/unit aro umbrella.

Unicum aro coined by: Magni

        Unicum aro as a subset of non-SAM/unit aro proposed by: Arokeladry

        Solaro coined by: Arokeladry


Wavership

Describes a relationship that fluctuates or is fluid between different kinds of relationships.

Coined by: Wavership


Zedromantic

Describes a person who experiences romantic attraction or is not on the aromantic spectrum. An alternate term to alloromantic.

Coined by: Arco-pluris

 

Arospec Identity Terms

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Acoromantic

Describes a person whose negative experiences with romance have alienated them from their alloromanticism.

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Adfecturomantic / Affecturomantic / Adfectual / Adfomantic

Describes a person whose romantic attraction is affected by their neurodivergency.


Aliquaromantic

Describes a person who experiences romantic attraction only under certain circumstances.

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Amicusromantic

Describes a person who experiences romantic attraction only to people they are platonically attracted to or are friends with.

Coined by: Pastelmemer (a.k.a. Pastelroswell) on Tumblr

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Antiromantic

Describes a person who would prefer not to develop romantic feelings for people, but does anyway.


Apathromantic

Describes a person who may or may not experience romantic attraction, but is indifferent to receiving it or acting on it.


Apothiromantic

Describes a person who does not experience any romantic attraction whatsoever, in any shape or form, and is romance repulsed.

Coined by: Autisutehk on Tumblr

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Apresromantic

Describes a person who only experiences romantic attraction after another form of attraction is felt. The original attraction may or may not fade/be replaced by the new attraction.

Coined by: Pastelmemer (a.k.a. Pastelroswell) on Tumblr

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Aspectusromantic

Describes a person who can appear to have an attraction, but in reality they do not feel that attraction at all. They tend to act in ways that most people would assume alloromantic people do.

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Borearomantic

Describes a person who has a set romantic orientation, with an exception, usually revolving around a single person.

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Burstromantic

Describes a person whose romantic attraction comes and goes, the label doesn’t specify if there is a reason for the changes.

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Caed(o)romantic

Describes a person who used to experience romantic attraction, but no longer does due to past trauma.

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Caligoromantic

Describes a person whose feelings of attraction are very weak or vague, almost nonexistent, like a vapor, fog, or mist.

Coined by: Terribledactyl on Tumblr

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Cassromantic

Describes a person who feels utterly indifferent to romantic attraction or feels that it isn’t important.

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Ceaseromantic

Describes a person who is usually alloromantic, but occasionally has a complete loss of attraction for a period of time.

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Dependromantic / Requiromantic / Exige(n)romantic / Cruxromantic

Describes a person who only experiences romantic attraction within one’s depended(s). This term can be used to describe romantic attraction felt solely within the context of Dependent Personality Disorder.

Coined by: Anti-god on Tumblr

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Desinoromantic

Describes a person who does not experience full-on romantic attraction, but experiences “liking” someone instead of “loving” them romantically, at which point the attraction ends.

Coined by: Pastelmemer (a.k.a. Pastelroswell) on Tumblr

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Dreadromantic

Describes a person whose romantic orientation fluctuates from feeling no attraction to feeling attraction. When attraction is felt, it is accompanied by a strong feeling of dread or anxiety.

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Duoromantic

Describes a person who has two or more well-defined orientations that they switch between (e.g., cupioromantic and frayromantic).

Duo coined by: Sto

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Duraromantic

Describes a person who rarely experiences romantic attraction, but when it they do, it lasts for a long time.

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Iamvanoromantic

Describes a person who feels little to no desire to be the giver of romantic gestures but expresses interest/desire in receiving them from someone else. An iamvanoromantic person can be aromantic or alloromantic.

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Idemromantic

Describes a person who does not internally experience romantic and platonic attraction differently. They distinguish between romantic and platonic based on other factors, such as age, personality compatibility, and ease of living together.

Coined by: Aspiring-to-wisdom

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Implaromantic / Inexromantic

Describes a person who is never satisfied with their orientation due to constant self-doubt, causing them to search and seek out something that fits as perfect as possible.

Impla coined by: Ash-doggie

Inex coined by: Pride-color-schemes

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Inactoromantic / Initiaromantic

Describes a person who experiences romantic attraction and wants a romantic relationship but doesn’t like romantic actions.

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Limnoromantic

Describes a person who experiences attraction only when engaging with depictions of attraction (e.g., drawings, writing), not when engaging with the acts themselves in real life.

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Lithflux / Akoiflux

  1. Describes a person who experiences romantic attraction and only sometimes desires for it to be reciprocated.

  2. Describes a person who experiences romantic attraction and has that attraction fade once in a relationship, but may come and go again throughout.

Coined by: Wavership

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Malaromantic

Describes a person who only experiences romantic attraction during maladaptive daydreams.

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Metaromantic

Describes a person who only experiences attraction that is unable to be defined by strict terms of platonic or romantic.

Coined by: Pastelmemer (a.k.a. Pastelroswell) on Tumblr

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Neu(tro) aro / Neutral aro / Arohaze / Aromush / Arovoid

Describes an aromantic person whose identity on the allosexual-asexual spectrum and/or on other orientation spectra is neutral, in-between, multiple, or unclear.

Neu(tro)/Neutral aro coined by: A-romantic--aromantic

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        Arohaze/Aromush coined by: Liquidlikecats

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        Arovoid coined by: Aroaceitup

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Noviromantic

Describes a person who experiences a complicated romantic attraction (or lack thereof) such that they do not feel it can be described in a single term.

Coined by: Romeoisadick on Tumblr

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Omniaromantic / Panaromantic

Describes a person who feels no romantic attraction whatsoever. In no way, shape, or form do they fall in love or feel any attraction to anyone.

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Placioromantic

Describes a person who feels little to no desire to be the receiver of romantic gestures but expresses interest/desire in performing them on someone else. A placioromantic person can be aromantic or alloromantic.

Coined by: Athomewithmargaery on Tumblr

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Plat(oni)romantic

Describes a person who feels no distinction between platonic and romantic attraction.

Coined by: Novusnova on Tumblr

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Polarromantic

Describes a person who switches between being either extremely attracted and not at all attracted to someone.

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Preromantic

Describes a person who feels that they have not experienced attraction enough to know their orientation yet.

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Propeestromantic

Describes a person whose identity feels like a mix of many (any more than two) aromantic spectrum identities that all are a part of one identity.

Coined by: Alex (Knifegoth on Tumblr)

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Quasiromantic

Describes a person who may see their attraction as non-traditional in some way.

Coined by: Jadekarkat

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Requi(es)romantic

Describes a person who feels little to no romantic attraction due to mental or emotional exhaustion. The exhaustion may or may not have been caused by bad experiences of romance in that person's past.

Coined by: Gay4dragons on Tumblr

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Schromantic

Describes a person who is aromantic and alloromantic at the same time, or some mix of the two.

Coined on AVEN


Singuluromantic

Describes a person who only experiences one type of attraction towards people (i.e. if they experience sexual attraction towards a person, they won’t feel romantic/alterous/platonic attraction towards them).

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Thymromantic

Describes a person who feels romantic attraction which varies depending on emotional state.

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